I need an opinion...
My friend posted this on her blog today...she's been having kind of a rough time. What do you all think of it? What do you think it means? Do you have any advice for her? I wasn't exactly sure what to tell her...I have no experience whatsoever in this arena...
Why would you like somebody when they act like an asshole?
Why would you like somebody when they act fake around you?
Why would you like somebody when they don’t like you?
Why would you like somebody when inside you know you shouldn’t?
Why would you like somebody when they show no emotions?
Why would you like somebody when they hurt your feelings?
Why would you like somebody when it’s a one-way street?
Why would you like somebody when they abuse you or it seems like it?
Why would you like somebody when you can’t talk to them?
Why would you like “Nobody”?
posted by Jaime at 10/19/2004 11:43:00 PM
8 Comments:
There is only one answer to all your questions: because you don't like yourself.
I think because sometimes, it's better than being alone...
...my brother had that, once. He was forced to chose mistreatment and ridicule and abuse or being by himself. He chose the mistreatment. I don't know WHY people tend to do that, but my best advice is to realize that being alone is worlds better than letting someone kick you around and treat you like shit, be it a romantic relationship or a friendship situation...
You want acceptance and approveal.
I agree that you can't always help the way you feel...if that was possible I think many people would spare themselves a lot of heartache.
People can always help how they feel, like with everything else, it is a choice. Now whethger you say it is conscience or unconscience, it is still a choice. If you know something or someone is wrong for you, let it the fuck go. BTW, I don't feel you don't like yourself, that was not posted by me. My true feeling were to avoid this post like the plague. Being as I was first in it, I say unto you; gain control of yourself and your hormones. That is what seperates us from the other mammilian species that rule this Earth(BOB)!
It is a cop-out to say you have no control over what you feel and whom you feel it for. It takes getting to know yourself, your limits and boudries that help you define who you are. We will all make mistakes until we get it right, but all of those mistakes are a conscience decision. So please no whining cop-outs, that upsets me. Fess up, if only to yourself what is truly going on in your head and your heart.
It was written that you do not like yourself, I hpe that is incorrect. But I find that many people do not like themselves. Call me conceded, but I love the hell outta myself. If it come down to me or them, with the exeption of my family(friends), it is them all fucking day long! Now to understand what I just alluded to, if it came down to my family, or me, for them, I would sacrifice me to save them. That is again only if I can't get THEM first.
That being said, get to know yourself, and stop giving in to the pressure of your peers, hormaones, and society standards. I may seem miserable, but I am not. I have what i need right now. When I need a partner, I will find her. Since I don't, I simply satisfy my hormonal urges when I deem it neccesary. Learn yourself,learn control. THEN LEARN TO CONTROL YOURSELF! IN THAT ORDER.
SO SAYS KING DEADPOOL OF Q-TOWN!
Hormones, hormones...everything isn't about hormones, LOL. I know that you disagree my "King of Q-town," but in my own experience, I could never turn my feelings off just like that. Maybe it was an unconscious choice, but I honestly think that once I felt the feeling, I couldn't change it. I could recognize a bad situation and walk away from it...but the feeling is there and will probably always be there for me.
Cheri has a point...not everything is about sex, V! LOL
And emotions are largely beyond our complete control; the best we can ever do is supress them, and even then not with 100% effectiveness.
Contrary to what is popularly accepted, almost everything is about sex. An attraction to someone esle is about sex. Period.
Now, about controlling your emotions, have you ever tried? If so, you will discover how freeing it is. Again, I never claim this to be easy, but it can be done. Some of us have lived in this state for a decade. Outside of the occassional, and I do mean few, were we have a breakdown. Those time are usually caused by something that nobody could every dispute as pain. Hence, control is limited, but regaining your control is a must. I am not a control freak, I learned these things out of neccesity. I like living, so I do not show my emotions to the wrong person, and I control my hormones. They lead to thoughts, thoughts lead to fantasies, and fantasies have to be explored. Control my thought process, so I control my hormones.
It is not a black mark against any perso if they do not know how to do any of the above things, or to give in to them. I actually admire people who are free to express themselves. Some of us can't, and not by choice. That being said, if someone disses you, it is probably a good idea to leave them alone. If you are attracted to someone, chances are they are attracted to you as well, but are better at controlling their responses. Inquire and find out for yourself. It is important that you do, or you may never know, hence why you wrote this in the first place. But respect, and learn to love yourself more, and you will find yourself attracted to a better calibre of men.
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